Condolences Not To Offer Someone Who’s Grieving

People are usually hesitant and unsure when it comes to offering comfort. Most are uncomfortable when it comes to knowing what to say.

There are no words that can take away the pain of the loss of a loved one. However, there are certain phrases within our condolences vernacular that while well-meaning, should be avoided.

1) I know how you feel

Every loss is different. Even if you believe your previous experience with loss is comparable, it certainly is not identical.

Instead try saying something like, “I know this loss is difficult for you, but one thing that helped me when I lost my loved one was …………..”

2) It’s going to be okay

Simply put, it’s not okay. Someone loved is gone and not coming back.

Instead try saying something like, “I know the future looks uncertain, but I will be here to help you every step of the way.”

3) Stay strong

Your loved one may need help to find strength. However during the early stages of grief, whether a person shows strength, weakness or numbness, it is important to communicate that whatever they are doing is perfectly normal.

The person will need to process the sadness at some point and feigning strength when the person feels most vulnerable may prevent this from occurring altogether.

Instead try saying something like, “Let yourself feel any emotion that comes your way. I’ll be here to listen whenever you need me.”

If you know someone struggling with grief, the team at Remembrance Funerals can help you find support.

Contact us for any advice you may need.