Condolences are a heartfelt way to honour the deceased and extend sympathy to their loved ones. However, navigating the appropriate way to express these sentiments can be challenging, especially depending on your relationship with the deceased or the mourner. Here’s a guide to help you find the right words.

When the Deceased Was Close to You

If you’re attending the funeral of someone dear, it’s customary to express your condolences to the family after the service and perhaps share a message in writing. The closer you were to the deceased, the more personal your message can be. You might opt for heartfelt expressions that reflect your unique experiences together, though traditional phrases like “Please accept my deepest sympathies” remain perfectly acceptable.

When Mourning a Close Friend

The tone of your condolences can vary based on your relationship with the mourner. Here are some options:

Conventional Expressions:

• “It is with great sadness that we learned of your loss.”
• “We can only imagine the grief you are feeling; you are in our thoughts.”

More Personal Messages:

• “We were deeply affected by this sudden loss and feel your pain.”
• “Please know that we stand by you in these difficult times.”

For a Professional Relationship

When extending condolences in a professional context, especially if you are not close to the mourner, consider these phrases:

• “My sincere condolences.”
• “You are in our thoughts during this difficult time.”
• “We share your sorrow.”

If the mourner is a close colleague, you might say:

• “I am deeply touched by your loss and share in your grief.”
• “It was with great sorrow that I learned of this sad news. I share your pain.”

At Remembrance Funerals, we are here to support you through every step of this journey.